tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18950992.post6456027682474402581..comments2024-02-13T08:45:20.455-05:00Comments on The Schooley Files: Settling for Mr. Good Enough?Keith Edwin Schooleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06328169815024415532noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18950992.post-32627970182462666062008-03-12T00:06:00.000-04:002008-03-12T00:06:00.000-04:00You're right that unrealistic expectations are not...You're right that unrealistic expectations are not really gender-biased; I guess what I was trying to get at was that it works itself out differently between men and women. Aside from the small minority of single men who are being pursued by more women than they know what to do with, and who therefore become extremely picky when confronted with the possibility of "settling down," I think most men carry these expectations mostly unconsciously, and project them onto any woman that they're attracted to. Men assume far too much, and then wake up to disillusionment after the honeymoon is over--which is of course unfair and totally the man's fault. With women, it's far more conscious and far more likely to prevent the relationship from ever getting to the honeymoon in the first place.Keith Schooleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04078256877683382439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18950992.post-66925136493128747652008-03-11T11:58:00.000-04:002008-03-11T11:58:00.000-04:00I can't really agree with the statement that men "...I can't really agree with the statement that men "don't generally have such Impossible Dreams". I think the percentage of men that have a "perfect soul mate" ideal is probably pretty close to females. I've known plenty of men who were looking for a swimsuit model who was a great cook, great housekeeper, loved sports, horror movies, and had a stratospheric libido. I don't think unrealistic expectations are the primary fault of one gender over the other.<BR/><BR/>That being said, I wholeheartedly agree with the overall topic of your post. I hate the term "settling". It gets back to a very individualistic, selfish view of what marriage is supposed to be. The "perfect soul mate" idea says marriage is all about me and what I want, or as it's more often expressed: "need". That's why divorce is so common...but that's a topic for another day.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16914401032087512202noreply@blogger.com